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So you are an Anarchist and a parent, how do you think that these 2 could conflict with one another? And how often are you mad about the infringement by the State on your parental rights? These are 2 different topics in the same realm that I have been contemplating for some time. Whether you know a lot about it or are reading this to find out, hell, you don’t even have to be an Anarchist but I’m sure you can relate in some way or another. In this blog I’ll be talking about the 1 topic which is discussing the differences between Government tyranny to parental authority for the dummies who need explanation and think they’re being clever in challenging your perspective. This isn’t a new topic, I probably won’t say anything that hasn’t been said already, however, being an Anarchist and a parent I was especially inspired to give a peace of mind and piece of my mind.
Well, just off the top off my head without research I know that I don’t own my kids as property (owning any human as property is wrong, period), my husband and I are natural caregivers to our children and a temporary authority as means to teach. We have the responsibility to teach them everything in life. Everything from morality, compassion, to be academically and socially smart, independent, interdependent and anything you feel they’ll need to live a life outside of the nest. Eventually we have to let go of their hand and watch them grow up without our help, unless they ask. They are still my children no matter what age, but at some point we no longer have the authority over how they live their lives.
Stepping outside of my own style of parenting I had to look into the many types of parenting styles. What I found primarily, is that there are 4 different styles. Neglectful, Permissive, Authoritative and Authoritarian.
Neglectful parents hardly need defining but in short it’s not teaching, nor fulfilling the needs of the children, or needs of children to parent relationships. It’s certainly not any way to parent. Permissive on the other hand, is like being your child’s friend rather than a parent. Permissive parents often allow their kids to make their own decisions and may give advice when needed. However, a permissive parent would likely give them whatever they want whenever they want it, in hopes that their kids appreciate the accommodation. Children of Permissive parents often grow up with many issues such as little self-control and self-regulation, and feeling that there’s something to be desired without knowing what’s ahead or how to handle it. Authoritative parenting is very different. Authoritative parents allow their kids to be independent while restricting them on their actions by age appropriateness. Authoritative parents aren’t controlling and overbearing but do set guidelines as they want their child to explore and learn as much as they can including the consequences of their actions. The kids would then, be able to make decisions based on their own reasoning as opposed to making decisions without experience and/or being told what their reasoning should be. This parenting style is said to be the most recommended as it promotes the best form of liberty and independence. Authoritarian parenting is, in my opinion, s the same as neglectful with a difference of actual military style of order. Obedience to your parents without explanation, being told as opposed to reasoning. Usually associated with phrases such as “because I said so” “do as I say not as I do” “obey or else” “my roof my rules you don’t like it get out”… there is no choice there is no independence. Authoritarian parents often have the mentality of “I do not want my kids to repeat my mistakes” and wind up hurting them with forceful restrictions and lack of explanation. There may not be a lot of heart to heart open discussions in this parenting style nor in Neglectful. We can rule this one out as it is the closest to government tyranny as it gets.
In addition to my answer, the government owns everyone from fetus to elderly to the box you’re buried in. You are their property. Don’t believe me? Do we not have birth and death certificates and social security numbers? They make taxes mandatory so that you can’t even get a job without signing a W2. Work and eat, or don’t work and starve. You work, you build yourself up and yet, they can seize your property, fruits of your labor, use money to create dependency programs, go to war, gain power and take our freedoms using fear and pride. From the homeless man to the small business owner. If you’re not part of the chronyist political, monopoly big business and media elites then you’re just a peon in their game, a slave if you will. They have power of what I call the 4 M’s. Monopoly, Money, Media, and Mentality. They’ll use the Media to plea to your weaknesses and fears, use identity politics and fear mongering to give you “incentive” to vote for something you really know nothing about. In turn you give up small bits of your rights and consent to give them more revenue (Money) for them to do as they see fit. While the State seeks to become the largest and sole business (Monopoly), which eventually will make all private businesses illegal, eliminating competition which will rise the cost of living. They use the abhorrent behavior of mankind to have control over law abiding citizens and how we think (Mentality). The funny thing is the law abiding citizens are often happy to do it because (insert misinformed justification here and a sprinkle of relative morality there) and you have citizens that are sheep in wolves clothing (yeah I said that right) who will eat each other alive. And that’s not something any authority should do, in fact, that’s down right leviathan. And how dare anyone call the masses out for being brainwashed, because if they knew just how wrong they were, the pain and guilt would be unbearable. So I wouldn’t compare how I feel about such tyranny to parental authority, they are only exclusive to the sense in how we’re not free to parent without the State as it is unconstitutional.
I have 1 M as a guideline to self governance. Morality, in which our system and government lacks.
The next blog might take me a bit longer to get out as I’ll be doing some crazy research into just that. Parental rights and how we are all children of the State by law. That is a vast topic and I’m probably biting off more than I can chew.
To end this blog I chose to quote a paragraph from Benjamin R Tucker in his chapter of State Socialism Vs Anarchism: How far they agree and wherein they differ, written in 1886 and boy you can tell. Modernize as you wish.
“Even in so delicate a matter as that of the relations of the sexes the Anarchists do not shrink from the application of their principle. They acknowledge and defend the right of any man and woman, or any men and women, to love each other for as long or as short a time as they can, will, or may. To them legal marriage and legal divorce are equal absurdities. They look forward to a time when every individual, whether man or woman, shall be self-supporting, and when each shall have an independent home of his or her own, whether it be a separate house or rooms in a house with others; when the love relations between these independent individuals shall be as varied as are individual inclinations and attractions; and when the children born of these relations shall belong exclusively to the mothers until old enough to belong to themselves.”